"That's what makes you beautiful"

Is it? Why is being clueless about your beauty considered an addition to it? Doesn't it imply either stupidity or insecurity or both?

In all the time that I've had to think in this past week, especially with the absence of my phone, I've concluded that being unaware of your beauty is just another cultural imposition, like "How sweet, she doesn't know she's beautiful. What a darling." There's a billion songs out there, too, reinforcing this nonsense modesty and actually making insecurity an important contributor to teenage likeability. 

I'm sorry, but if an attractive person did not see himself/herself that way, they would either be unhealthily insecure, stupid or (I mean this with no disrespect) blind. Unfortunately, though, in today's world, if you're clueless about how pretty you are, you're cute and adorable, but if you're aware of how pretty you are, you're considered (very rarely) intimidatingly beautiful or (most likely) painfully vain, based on how you respond to this knowledge. 

If you let your prettiness consume your whole outlook on life, if you plan each day's outfit, if getting a few less compliments would hurt you and make you question yourself, then you're vain. You need to take a breather, go off the makeup for a few days and do something productive with your time. Really, vanity is just overcompensation, just as arrogance is. Don't be that person. 

I won't spell out insecurity for you, but I request the insecure to not fish for further validation when complimented by saying things like "only you see me that way" or "you're just saying that to make me feel better" but to behave with dignity and thank the kind person, and return the favor by complimenting them. It is okay to be beautiful and know it. It is alright to be intimidating. It is perfectly fine to achieve things in life and become accomplished and amazing - it's chill, I swear.

I believe the best alternative is to be intimidatingly beautiful - to be aware of your beauty and give it its due in the form of well-fit clothing and clean hair, (and makeup if you want), and leave it at that; to go on with your life and do what you want to do, and inspire, create, think, read, express yourself through a job well done and amaze, because looks really mustn't matter in one's valuation of oneself.